When my kids whine about something – they DO NOT get what they’re wanting. End of discussion. There have often been times when I may have changed my initial response if they had calmly requested it with good reason. But even if the reason is good and their logic is sound, whining will not result in a positive outcome.
My kids sometimes do this thing when they don’t get what they want, where their voices raise in intensity and nasality… Tears may begin to form beneath the raised brow of protest… This is often followed by subjective objections like “but, he got to…” Yes, sometimes my kids whine. I hate it.
Whining is a pathetic attempt at emotional manipulation. I hate it. My kids are learning quickly of its futility (mostly). They’re figuring out that whining will change an ‘I don’t think so’ into a flat out ‘no’ quicker than a well placed shoe turns a hapless spider into a smudge on the sidewalk.
I wish to live in a whine free world. It starts at my house.
I also long for a church that has excised every whiny knee-jerk reaction and replaced it with selfless desire to please God together. Church is not about what I want or what I like – it’s about the mission of God to reconnect humanity with Himself.
May we have love enough to quit whining.
May we have grace enough to keep loving whiners.
May we have courage enough to call people to stop whining and get back to work.